You know what you want in a partner

And no, it’s not a fancy house, millions of dollars or the perfect dating resume.

When you get to be my age, mid-thirties, there is an expectation about your life held firmly by your peers.

Whether you know it or not, the people in your life expect you to:

Some of these expectations come from society’s beliefs about aging. And some of these beliefs are because your loved ones know you well and expect you to act a certain way based on their experiences with you.

And then you bring dating into the mix, and the expectations go through the roof.

I’m not talking about when you’re “meant” to get married or have kids. This is about the single expectations a new lover has for you. When it comes to dating in your thirties, you’re expected to have certain life skills under your belt.

It’s the reason people will use to justify not going on a second date with you.

It’s the reason they don’t think you’re a right fit for them.

It’s the reason why believe someone better is out there.

These are those expectations.

There is a wonderful naivety about our teenage years when we wistfully look into the sky and contemplate what we want. But as we grow up, this youthful approach isn’t so accepted by people who have it figured out.

It’s a hard pill to swallow, but so many people out there will expect you to know what you want in a partner. The reason? Because they do.

I don’t agree that we should pass this expectation on to anyone. But they do have a point about knowing what you want.

Having figured out what you want in a partner shows:

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