My Family Never Forgave Me

But I still don’t regret my decision…

This is a very personal story, but I decided to share it anyway. Maybe there are others like me that won’t feel so alone.

Yes, I had been using birth control, but any medical professional will tell you it’s not foolproof. The man I was with was extremely abusive. It took me seven times before I left him for good. But that’s another story.

However, I found myself celebrating the little milestones of pregnancy — when I first began to show, when I felt my son moving, and my first ultrasound.

The latter months were awful. As any woman who has had children will tell you, the third trimester is rough. My back hurt constantly, I had constant indigestion, and every time I took a step, I felt like a knife was stabbing me in my lower pelvic area (to be polite about it).

He was born at 8:38 in the morning on Thanksgiving day of that year. My family laughed because right after I gave birth, I demanded a Thanksgiving meal.

Now, I had known from the start that I wanted to choose adoption. I had an ultrasound at 7 weeks to date my pregnancy, and when I heard the heartbeat, I couldn’t go through with an abortion. My son’s father was against the adoption at first, and we finally settled on an open adoption. This is when most of my family turned against me.

My parents understood, but everyone else still judges me. Does it bother me? Yes, sometimes. They weren’t in my shoes. Even friends of my family were nasty and judgmental towards me. I tried not to let it bother me, but at times it really does.

I know some adoptees on here might hate me too, and perhaps I will regret sharing this story. And for the big question — how is my son? He’s great. He was raised in circumstances way better than I could have provided and we talk every now and then.

As for the members of my family that still judge me? Well, who needs people like that in their circle. Love is, and should be, unconditional.

If you’ve made it this far, thanks for reading.

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